I also never heard anything like this. A Chinese girl who wants to get a foreign guy in order to be able to leave the country, would take Canadians, Americans and people from Europe. If she is halfway familiar with these countries, she would rather pick someone from the big countries in Europe (eg France, Germany, GB...) because of the social welfare system.
Someone stated, that you should better be prepared to become a father soon willingly or unwillingly. ?!? Unless this girl is Virgin Mary, she can only get pregnant when you dont use contraceptives (eg condom, the pill). By the way, emergency contraception and abortion are no means of contraception although Chinese seem to think so.
Finding a Chinese that's a piece of cake!
Why? You are white, you come from a 'rich' and 'advanced' country —> you can offer stability and mixed raced children. Most Chinese people only care about financial security due to the lack of state social benefits. No one really cares about your look and personality (citation from my hairdresser). Plus the language barrier (if you cannot communicate you dont have deep conversations and serious discussions) and of course the cultural difference (Chinese would assume that your odd behaviour is normal for people from your country). People from the same foreign country can tell straight away if someone has some real mental issues or is a looser.
I have seen a lot of foreign guys over here with Chinese girlfriends and I'm really happy for them, because back home (for a various reasons) it's not easy for them to find a girlfriend. And for a foreigner it's easy to tell why. Of course it's just easier to buy a plane ticket and go to another country to find a girlfriend, where you can also get a whole new identity, instead of just changing yourself and asking yourself what's the problem with you.
By the way, there is a much cheaper option: There are agencies in every country that help you to find a girlfriend ;-) So no need to waist so much time and money on coming here.
If it's just for sex, someone told me prostitutes are very cheap over here...
@HFCAMPO
Sorry, I didnt get your point about "As for men directly asking you for sex, keep in mind the environment in which you are in. You did not say you are walking down the street and they ask you for sex.". So if I go to a bar, it's totally acceptable to be asked directly for sex by Chinese men, no introduction nor anything? And if you say no, they start offering you money and offer even more every time you say no. And everything in a rather agrressive attitude. Meaning if I dont want to be molested, I should stop going out with friends?
When Im walking down the street or sitting on a bus or in a cafe people just come up to me and start touching me. In my country that totally inacceptable, so I asked my Chinese girlfriends and teachers why is that. They explained, that most Chinese have no experience with dealing with foreigners, so they jusr dont know what's appropriate and what's not. Also the stereotype of foreigner being kaifang might add to it, because this kind of things never happened to any of my Chinese friends.
From my excperience people also come here, because they were sent here by their companies back home. Just go to Shanghai, Chengdu and so on. Those people didnt choose to come here.
Also some people have to stay in China, because their home country is in a financial crisis and they wouldnt be able to get a job back home.
I encountered that living in Kunming is actually more expensive than back home. But the difference is, back home you actually get something for your money.
I also would like to add, that some Western men like not only China but Asia in general, because here they get all attention from the girls. Back home that would be almost impossible. Some of them even told me that they cant get along with the girls back home and that they are very happy in China.
I have to admitt that I also complain about China. Most of the time it's just that I think I'm the only one encountering such a problem or annoyence. Just to give you some examples: electric devices and extensions cables that start burning for no reason, all the food poisining, Chinese guys coming up to you in a bar and ask you directly for sex (I always wear long trousers, sneackers and a t-shirt), old people coming up to my touching my hair, my arms, my cheeks and so on when they talk to me. Just too mention a few.
When I complain to my Western and Chinese friends, I often find out that they have exactly the same problem like me. Sometimes they can help you to deal with it. But most importantly is that you have the "Im the only one having this kind of a problem" feeling any more,
I strongly disagree with the "you are just a guest" theory. I've been to a lot of countries and at every house I was offered a cup of tea, coffee or something else. That's called hospitality.
When Chinese people come to my country what am I supposed to answer when they start complaining, something like "Dont complain, just go back to your home country if you dont like it here"?!
@faraday: Now I see your point about khat. These sort of political decisions happen quite a lot. You never know if they were and to what extend they were influenced by the lobby.
Comming back to the point of discussion. I just believe, that no one has the right to decide who should live and who should be put to death. Especially supporting it by saying everyone should serve a purpose. That's faschist logic. I personnally dont think it's appropriate to say things like that neither in a forum nor in real life whether it's a joke or meant serious.
@faraday: Khat is not harmless. There are a couple of studies from various organizations and from different countries that prove the opposite of what you just said.
And for HFCAMPO: Coming from a country without death penalty and where death penalty is also considered murder, your attitude makes me sick. But hey, only developing countries like Europe, Russia, Ruanda, Ukraine and so on banned the death penalty.
Well at least advanced countries like the States, Yemen, China and North Korea still keep it. And because Europe is not exporting lethal injections to the States anymore, you are even considering using the electric chair again and think it's ok to use some lethal injections without prior testing? As a convict has no right to get a painless death. C'mon even every vet from the countryside can put a dog to sleep...
And how do you define purpose? What about the obese, the sick, the disabled, the old, the homeless? The street children in East Europe and Russia sniffing glue and other things to life on the streets. People esp. women trapped in human trafficking are forced to take drugs to stop them from running away. Ampethamines and crystal meth were given to American, British, German and Japanese soldiers so that they can fight much longer and care less about the risks.
I suggest for next time, just think before you write something. It gets into this mmteacher kind of attitude.
@HFCAMPO:
As I said before. You have to be very careful when you use sentence like "Get rid of the demand - just execute all drug users since they serve no purpose in any society."
This statement is inhuman! In my country the freedom of speech ends where human dignity is violated! Millions of people were killed because people said they dont serve any purpose. Shame on you, seriously!
'they serve no purpose in any society' you have to be very careful when you say somehting like that. It's very similar to what some people said between 1933 and 1945 in Germany about certain groups in society!
havent been there in months, because I wasnt too impressed. but some friends and I thought we should give it a try again.
This was definitely the last time we went there... very unfriendly staff who dont pay any attention and the owner asking you whether you cant squeeze in the last slice of pizza when she cleared the table...
About the pizza, very oily and low quality products used for making it
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Laos extradites drug suspects to Yunnan
Posted by@HFCAMPO: I dont take drugs or smoke and never did. Back home I worked for an institution that takes care of drug addicts.
Laos extradites drug suspects to Yunnan
Posted by@faraday: Now I see your point about khat. These sort of political decisions happen quite a lot. You never know if they were and to what extend they were influenced by the lobby.
Comming back to the point of discussion. I just believe, that no one has the right to decide who should live and who should be put to death. Especially supporting it by saying everyone should serve a purpose. That's faschist logic. I personnally dont think it's appropriate to say things like that neither in a forum nor in real life whether it's a joke or meant serious.
Laos extradites drug suspects to Yunnan
Posted by@faraday: Khat is not harmless. There are a couple of studies from various organizations and from different countries that prove the opposite of what you just said.
And for HFCAMPO: Coming from a country without death penalty and where death penalty is also considered murder, your attitude makes me sick. But hey, only developing countries like Europe, Russia, Ruanda, Ukraine and so on banned the death penalty.
Well at least advanced countries like the States, Yemen, China and North Korea still keep it. And because Europe is not exporting lethal injections to the States anymore, you are even considering using the electric chair again and think it's ok to use some lethal injections without prior testing? As a convict has no right to get a painless death. C'mon even every vet from the countryside can put a dog to sleep...
And how do you define purpose? What about the obese, the sick, the disabled, the old, the homeless? The street children in East Europe and Russia sniffing glue and other things to life on the streets. People esp. women trapped in human trafficking are forced to take drugs to stop them from running away. Ampethamines and crystal meth were given to American, British, German and Japanese soldiers so that they can fight much longer and care less about the risks.
I suggest for next time, just think before you write something. It gets into this mmteacher kind of attitude.
Laos extradites drug suspects to Yunnan
Posted by@HFCAMPO:
As I said before. You have to be very careful when you use sentence like "Get rid of the demand - just execute all drug users since they serve no purpose in any society."
This statement is inhuman! In my country the freedom of speech ends where human dignity is violated! Millions of people were killed because people said they dont serve any purpose. Shame on you, seriously!
Laos extradites drug suspects to Yunnan
Posted by@HFCAMPO: Alcohol and cigarettes are also drugs.
'they serve no purpose in any society' you have to be very careful when you say somehting like that. It's very similar to what some people said between 1933 and 1945 in Germany about certain groups in society!