@geezer
I'm glad the VA FINALLY recognized agent orange derived illnesses - shamefully long overdue. I can only wish you well as your body begins to fail - and I apologize if it appeared I marginalized your service - that is never an intention and I have never knowingly showed disrespect to any serving or retired service member.
As for arrogance - it's nothing to do over-compensation for being a second class citizen of Chinese descent. As a Chinese descent, working in a white-man's world - I was raised to strive to be better if not the best, because I have to compete racially, to survive or excel. So, actually, I was raised with the perception that I was physically crippled because of my race - that being said - I was also raised to be proud of my heritage and to always remember, that when a WHITE American looks at me - he doesn't see an American, he sees a Chinese guy, who speaks english. This has been and continues to be my professional experience, from over 30 years working in and managing professional industry with multinational US corporations. I get that "look" and "feeling" when I meet black, hispanic, and white americans. My experience with Chinese Americans - they try to tear each other down professionally. I've NEVER knowingly participated in such activities - I was actually pretty naive when younger. Japanese American professionals - they tend to help each other. I saw this same behavior in Chinese communities in the USA - well, ok...california. My father's goal was to weld the chinese community together into a politically cohesive force - ostensibly to benefit the chinese american community AND to spread Chinese culture in the USA - to build a bridge of cultural understanding. When we are more familiar and accepting of other cultures - there's less opportunity for misunderstandings and potentially incendiary incidents.
Arrogance is an issue of perception. An expert on history might be perceived as arrogant when critiquing a particular point in history, until it's discovered that the teacher is perhaps eminently qualified to his/her opinion. I am an unparalleled expert at what I do - currently, a legend in my own mind.
My "arrogance" arose from professional ability. I use the word arrogant, because that's generally how I'm perceived.
I'm a control freak - because in today's world of accounting and contract fraud, I cannot and will not permit fraud. So I come across as arrogant, overbearing. tyrannical - and I don't care. Those investments are my responsibility to return in a profitable, professional, and diligent manner.
When I started my career, it was to sow death, destruction and misery on a global scale, in the interest of liberty and freedom for all. I accomplished that goal many times over.
Now, in the twilight of my life - I want to do something different - to make this world a better place to live, both for myself (and, ostensibly you, somehow) and for my wife and children, after I'm long gone. I'd prefer to go out of this life with a legacy of construction, as opposed to destruction. I'm guessing that's how the makers of the first atomic bomb probably felt, in some small manner, although I'm not even close to that level of talent - but, different fields, different markets, different specialities.
@nnoble
The reason we're paranoid is because our government is spying on us - that's a known fact. Google captures everything you do, that passes through their servers. In fact, google was recently punished for inserting trojan horses into Apple's Safari web browser, to surf all your cookies - including those unrelated to google. So much for the company motto of "do no evil".
I know I'm under light surveillance, because - just for kicks - I compare my passport renewal or add pages times to those of the guy next to me. My passport activities require a call back to the US State Department - somewhere in the USA. The guy next to me (usually a white US family/business guy) - his passport things are done in a few minutes - I am consistently a 20+ minute transaction. I pay attention to stupid things like that for entertainment AND I was trained annually to be aware of espionage and counter-espionage activities - so I was trained to be paranoid - occupational hazard.